How to Find a Soulmate: The Art of Soul-mating Through Tantra
By Dominique D’Vita | Tantra & Intimacy ExpertEveryone Wants a Soulmate… But Do You Know How to SouL-Mate?
People long for soulmate connections—relationships that feel effortless, magnetic, and deeply fulfilling.
But here’s the uncomfortable truth:
💡 If we only know how to engage in performative, ego-driven, skin-to-skin intimacy, how can we expect anything but a shallow relationship?
Modern relationships often get stuck in the realm of surface-level attraction, focusing on physical chemistry while neglecting the emotional, energetic, and spiritual depth that true connection requires.
The real question is: Are you meeting someone on a soul level, or just using their body to validate your own ego?
Tantra offers a different path—one that shifts intimacy from a transaction to a transformation.
Carl Jung, OSHO, and the Psychology of Deep Intimacy
Carl Jung taught that our relationships mirror our unconscious wounds. The partners we attract reflect our hidden beliefs about love, worthiness, and connection.
Many people seek a soulmate, yet their relationships remain unfulfilling because they’re unconsciously repeating childhood wounds—seeking love the way they learned to receive (or not receive) it as children.
💭 If you didn’t receive deep emotional connection in your early years, how comfortable are you truly receiving love now?
💭 Do you push away intimacy because it feels unsafe?
💭 Do you choose emotionally unavailable partners because they mirror the love you once craved but never fully received?
OSHO took this deeper, explaining that most people engage in ego-based intimacy, not soul-based love.
“Love should be a reality in your being, not just a performance. Otherwise, you will go on missing it.” – OSHO
Without presence, without emotional attunement, without full-body awareness, intimacy remains just an act—a routine of physical closeness without true union.
Tantra teaches that sex isn’t something you do—it’s a place you go.
It is the merging of two souls, a dissolving of the self into something greater than the sum of its parts.
But to access this, we must unlearn the shallow ways we’ve been conditioned to connect.
Quote by Esther Perel
Why Shallow Intimacy Leaves Us Feeling Empty
Many men, unknowingly, approach intimacy in a way that repels the very connection they seek.
🚨 Common Mistakes That Block Deep Intimacy:
Engaging in mechanical intimacy, mimicking what they see in adult videos
Moving too fast, focusing on performance rather than presence
Treating sex as a goal-oriented act rather than an energy exchange
Seeking validation through physical conquest rather than emotional depth
Avoiding emotional vulnerability, keeping intimacy at a surface level
For many women, this type of disconnected intimacy feels hollow—like their bodies are being used rather than their souls being seen.
Have you ever considered that a woman isn’t rejecting sex/intimacy itself—she’s rejecting the way it’s being offered?
When sex is purely skin-to-skin, driven by ego and performance, it lacks depth. It lacks the soulful presence that makes a woman crave intimacy.
💡 The truth? Women have higher sex drives than men. But they crave soulful intimacy, not just physical release.
When women pull away from sex, it’s often because their bodies are saying:
"This doesn’t feel nourishing. This doesn’t feel safe. This doesn’t feel like love."
Tantra: The Key to Soulmate-Level Love
If we desire a soulmate, we must learn the art of soulmating.
Tantra teaches that intimacy is an energetic exchange, not just a physical act. It invites us to:
💫 Slow down. Deep intimacy isn’t rushed. It’s cultivated through presence.
💫 Connect with all five senses. Eye contact, breathwork, scent, taste, and sound amplify intimacy.
💫 Honor the divine within your partner. See them as sacred, not just as an object of desire.
💫 Develop full-body awareness. True connection comes from attuning to subtle energy shifts.
💫 Let go of performance. Drop into the moment instead of trying to “do it right.”
Can You Make Love to Their Soul?
Ask yourself:
How deeply can I meet my partner? Am I truly present, or just going through the motions?
Can I connect with them beyond their body? Can I feel into their emotions, their essence, their soul?
Am I honoring their divine energy, or seeking ego validation?
Tantra is about depth.
If we only know how to engage in shallow connection, we will attract and create shallow relationships.
But if we learn to meet someone beyond the physical—if we learn to make love to their soul—we step into the realm of soulmates.
The Real Question: Are You Ready for Depth?
Most people think they want deep love, but few are truly ready to go beyond their comfort zone.
Depth requires courage.
Depth requires self-awareness.
Depth requires unlearning old patterns and being open to transformation.
If you desire a soulmate, it starts with YOU.
The way you connect with your own body, emotions, and energy dictates the level of connection you can experience with another.
If you’re ready to explore Tantra and open the door to soul-level love, start by awakening your energy.
💫 Want to discover if your ready for Tantra? Take my free quiz!
Or if you’re truly ready for transformation, let’s work together. You can apply for coaching here.
The depth you seek is already within you—you just have to learn how to access it.
How much longer are you willing to let your relationships stay at the surface?
How much longer will you deny yourself the healing pleasure of Tantra—the kind of intimacy that nourishes your soul, awakens your body, and transforms your entire experience of love and connection?
At what point do you decide that you deserve more—more depth, more passion, more connection, more presence?
How much longer will you settle for surface-level interactions when true, soul-deep intimacy is within your reach?
